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Have HOPE! You CAN turn your life around!

2 Apr

While reviewing my mission statement this morning, I came across this, which I had condensed (back around 2000) from Og Mandino’s “Mission: Success.” Recently divorced, I was living in a 1 BR house, sleeping on a pull-out couch, 40 lbs overweight, and $30,000+ deep in credit card debt. To say I was “struggling” would indeed be an understatement.

Wherever you are and however difficult your circumstances, maintain your hope. You have within you the power to change, to grow, and to take back your life!  I turned my life around and you can, too. You CAN. You WILL.

I used to read this every morning and every evening.  What a FANTASTIC road map for the day.  If you’re struggling I’d suggest printing this off and reading it, out loud, with as much PASSION as you can muster, morning, noon, and night!  Watch what unfolds.

THANK YOU FOR THIS DAY!

God, I thank you for this day. I will treasure it, for it is all I have. I will remain aware of how little it takes to make this day an incredible day.

I will waste not even a precious second today in fear or hate or self-pity or selfishness. I will turn away from any temptation that might cause me to break my word or lose my self-respect. 

Instead, today I will deliver to my enemies the gift of forgiveness; my opponents, tolerance; my friends, a smile; my child, a good example. Every gift will be wrapped with unconditional love. I know that the world is a looking glass and gives back to me the reflection of my own soul.

The past is already a dream from which I can neither retrieve a single word nor erase any foolish deed. I do resolve, however, that if I have injured anyone through my thoughtlessness, I will not let this day’s sun set before I make amends. Nothing I do today will be of greater importance.

I will not only accept, but embrace today’s challenges. Just as a diamond is polished by friction, I will become more valuable through this day’s adversities. 

God, I thank you for this day. I will treasure it, for it is all I have.I will not fret the future. My happiness does not depend on straining to see what lurks dimly on the horizon but rather on doing what lies clearly at hand. 

God, I thank you for this day. I will treasure it, for it is all I have.

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3 Critical Steps To Stop Mr. Grumpy’s Blood From Boiling

24 Jan

Angry customer“Do we HAVE to send Mr. Ticked Off a survey?  His purchase was a disaster and he’s going to let us have it!”

Now we’ve all had a transaction or two that got just plain jacked up, for whatever reason.  Here are some suggests on what to do when things go sour…

3 critical steps to mitigate the damage: 

  1. MOST IMPORTANTLY, offer a heart-felt, sincere apology.  Not the “I’m sorry for any inconvenience this may have caused” robotic BS that other companies offer.  That will actually fan the flames.  Instead, a GENUINE, “I’m so sorry,” like you’d offer a friend going through a rough time.
  2. Next, accept responsibility for their poor experience, EVEN IF it was not entirely your fault.
  3. Finally, share what you’ve learned from the experience and what changes you’ll make to avoid a similar situation in the future.

The more we can take responsibility and show genuine concern for the customer, the more likely they’ll forgive us.  The more we try to prove it wasn’t our fault (even if it wasn’t) or (worse yet) to prove them wrong, the angrier they’ll get.  Which do you want, a little humble pie, or them posting how we stink to their 1,500 Facebook friends?

A PRO takes responsibility, apologizes, and builds new checks and balances
into their process to avoid the situation in the future.

Will it work EVERY time?  Of course not, but more often than not, Mr. Grumpy’s blood will stop boiling.  Yes, we may still have an unhappy customer, but we’ll likely avoid a PR nightmare that will cost us all business.

Thanks for reading.  If you find it valuable, please do share, post, like, etc!  I appreciate it!

Chris

Stand Guard at the Door to Your Mind!

15 Dec

lighthouseWhen light enters a dark room where does the darkness go? It’s gone, instantly. But not very far!!! Yes, we need to remember that in the absence of light the darkness will come back. But the answer is not to celebrate the darkness, to wallow in it, to fear it. The answer is to bring more light.  Newton, CT is darkness.  Who will be the light?

Please consider:  For every deranged murderer there are a thousand beautiful souls doing a million amazing, beautiful, selfless, astounding, loving gestures that go largely unreported. Truth is, selflessness and service rarely glue folks to their TV. They just don’t sell much advertising. They barely make a blip on Nielsen ratings. But they do change the world in a very real way.

We must each STAND GUARD at the door to our mind!  We are each in charge of how much darkness we let in, how we allow it to color or view of the world, and whether we use it as a brake or a gas pedal in our lives.

So yes, let’s take a minute and let our hearts break for the shattered families and communities. But let’s next take an hour to appreciate all the beautiful souls. Notice them. Applaud them. Focus on them. Rejoice in them. And BE one of them. Why not BE THE CHANGE?

I invite you to CELEBRATE someone who is making the world a brighter place?  Either in the comments below, or in a post of your own, celebrate who has helped YOU?   Who has made YOUR community a better place?  Who has renewed or reconfirmed your faith in the human race?  Please give them some love below!

Please be the change you wish to see in the world…

Chris Sanderson

Sincerity is Not a Test of Truth

24 Mar

Sincerity is not a test of truth.

Here is what I believe:

Sincerity is not a test of truth.  Sincerity is a test of magnitude of belief. Gandhi was sincere, but so was Stalin. JFK and Ronald Reagan? Sincere. But Hitler was sincere as well. We can believe fervently, with never-ending sincerity and STILL be dead wrong. Our leaders, on both sides of the aisle, are certainly sincere. Their life experiences have led them to their current belief systems.

Tech Savvy Lender Chris Sanderson by Tony Frantz Studios

Tech Savvy Lender Chris Sanderson courtesty Tony Frantz Studios

Here’s what I’ve learned: Receiving handouts destroys our self-worth. Lack of self-worth impedes our ability to take action in our own best interest. And lack of taking action in our own best interest invariably leads to neediness. Yet life will not respond favorably to neediness, to victims. Life responds not to what a person needs, but rather what he has labored for, mentally, physically and emotionally.Bad breaks? Sure. Hiccups? Of course. But over the long run, those who have done the hard work and exerted the discipline will be rewarded. Those who expected something for nothing will lead a life of frustration. These are natural laws that you and I cannot alter!

Many of our leaders believe that we need to give people still more.  Handouts in the short-term are an effective way to garner votes in the short-term and disaster in the long-term.  If we want a nation of cripples then let’s just keep handing out crutches. Our future as a country will not be determined by the needs of our citizens nor by our expectations of the past. It will be determined by what we deserve through our level of discipline, our work ethic, and our willingness to accept the natural laws that regulate our existence.

Sincerely,

Chris

Dr. Fuhrman’s Nutritarian Lifestyle – World’s Weirdest Smoothie!

13 Sep

Dr. Fuhrman’s Nutritarian Lifestyle – World’s Weirdest Smoothie!

As many of you already know, I’ve been practicing the “Nutritarian” lifestyle recommended by Dr. Joel Fuhrman in “Eat To Live.”

Ready?  My results after 24 days:

  • Blood pressure went from 130s/80s to 110s/60s
  • Dropped a pants size
  • Weight down 13.5 lbs
  • Night sweats gone
  • Resting pulse now below 50
  • Didn’t measure cholesterol, etc, but I’d bet my retirement it’s WAY better

Let me say again…  This is after only 24 days!  Folks, I’m a believer!  BIG TIME!

I made a little video to show you the kinds of delicious foods I’ve been eating.  I was amazed at the variety and how great it actually tastes!  Well, that’s not entirely true… I still can’t find a way to prepare Kale without gagging!  LOL.  I just stick with Spinach and Romaine!  🙂  Here was tonight’s smoothie.  I’m stuffed but it was only about maybe 300 calories for 2 servings!  And I’ll bet I got more micronutrients, vitamins and minerals than I did in a whole day prior to my nutritarian discovery!  Enjoy!

Here’s the link to Dr. Fuhrman’s “Disease Proof” blog if you’d like to learn more:  www.diseaseproof.com

Like they say, you can’t unring a bell.  Knowing what I know now from personal experience, I think it’s safe to say I will never, ever be going back to the SAD (Standard American Diet).

Thank you, Dr. Fuhrman!

Sincerity Is Not a Test of Truth

27 Jul

Sincerity is not a test of truth.

Sincerity is not a test of truth.  Sincerity is a test of magnitude of belief. Gandhi was sincere, but so was Stalin. JFK and Ronald Reagan? Sincere.
But Hitler was sincere as well. We can believe fervently, with never-ending sincerity and STILL be dead wrong. Our leaders, on both sides of the isle, are
certainly sincere. Their life experiences have led them to their current belief systems.

TruthHere’s what I’ve learned: Receiving handouts destroys our self worth. Lack of self-worth impedes our ability to take action in our own best interest. And lack
of taking action in our own best interest invariably leads to neediness. Yet life will not respond favorably to neediness, to victims. Life responds not to
what a person needs, but rather what he has labored for, mentally, physically and emotionally.

Bad breaks? Sure. Hiccups? Of course. But over the long run, those who have done the hard work and exerted the discipline will be rewarded. Those who
expected something for nothing will lead a life of frustration. These are natural laws that you and I cannot alter!

If we want a nation of cripples then let’s just keep handing out crutches.  Our future as a country will not be determined by the needs of our citizens. It
will be determined by what we deserve through our level of discipline, our work ethic, and our willingness to accept the natural laws that regulate our
existence.

If you believe me to be off course here, please help me understand where I have gone wrong.  I am interested in reason, not name calling or finger pointing, please.  If your life experiences have led you to a different conclusion please chime in.  I sincerely would like to hear your opinions.

Most sincerely,

Chris Sanderson

Parents – Read On If You Dare

4 May

Parents – Read On If You Dare

Hey friends.  I’d like to share something VERY special with you.  This is dedicated to my soon-to-be-grown up daughter, Lauren.

Milk does a body good

I first read Father Forgets again while re-reading “How To Win Friends and Influence People” by Dale Carnegie.  It doesn’t require much in the way of pre-amble.  Just grab you Kleenex and read on, if you dare.

“Father Forgets” by W. Livingston Larned
Originally published in the 1930s in the Readers’ Digest (at least that’s my understanding)

Listen, son:
I am saying this as you lie asleep,
one little paw crumpled under your cheek and
the blond curls stickily wet on your damp forehead.
I have stolen into your room alone.
Just a few minutes ago,
as I sat reading my paper in the library,
a stifling wave of remorse swept over me.
Guiltily I came to your bedside.

There are the things I was thinking,
son: I had been cross to you.
I scolded you as you were dressing for school
because you gave your face merely a dab with a towel.
I took you to task for not cleaning your shoes.
I called out angrily
when you threw some of your things on the floor.

At breakfast I found fault, too.
You spilled things.
You gulped down your food.
You put your elbows on the table.
You spread butter too thick on your bread.
And as you started off to play
and I made for my train,
you turned and waved a hand
and called, ‘Goodbye, Daddy!’
and I frowned, and said in reply,
‘Hold your shoulders back!’

Then it began all over again in the late afternoon.
As I came up the road I spied you,
down on your knees, playing marbles.
There were holes in your stockings.
I humiliated you before your boyfriends
by marching you ahead of me to the house.
Stockings were expensive –
and if you had to buy them you would be more careful!
Imagine that, son, from a father!

Do you remember,
later, when I was reading in the library,
how you came in timidly,
with a sort of hurt look in your eyes?
When I glanced up over my paper,
impatient at the interruption,
you hesitated at the door.
‘What is it you want?’ I snapped.
You said nothing,
but ran across in one tempestuous plunge,
and threw your arms around my neck
and kissed me,
and your small arms tightened
with an affection that God had set blooming in your heart
and which even neglect could not wither.
And then you were gone,
pattering up the stairs.

Well, son, it was shortly afterwards
that my paper slipped from my hands
and a terrible sickening fear came over me.
What has habit been doing to me?
The habit of finding fault, of reprimanding
– this was my reward to you for being a boy.
It was not that I did not love you;
it was that I expected too much of youth.
I was measuring you
by the yardstick of my own years.

And there was so much that was good and fine
and true in your character.
The little heart of you
was as big as the dawn itself
over the wide hills.
This was shown by your spontaneous impulse
to rush in and kiss me good night.
Nothing else matters tonight, son.
I have come to your bedside in the darkness,
and I have knelt there, ashamed!

It is a feeble atonement;
I know you would not understand these things
if I told them to you during your waking hours.
But tomorrow I will be a real daddy!
I will chum with you,
and suffer when you suffer,
and laugh when you laugh.
I will bite my tongue
when impatient words come.
I will keep saying as if it were a ritual:
‘He is nothing but a boy – a little boy!’

I am afraid I have visualized you as a man.
Yet as I see you now, son,
crumpled and weary in your cot,
I see that you are still a baby.
Yesterday you were in your mother’s arms,
your head on her shoulder.
I have asked too much, too much.

W. Livingston Larned

Moms & Dads – Not sure about you, but I’m shutting my computer down and giving my kid a hug…

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To your abundant success!

TSL standingChris Sanderson
Tech Savvy Lender in Fort Wayne, IN
Ruoff Home Mortgage
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